What is Narcissistic Abuse?

Have you ever met someone who is charming, knows exactly what to say to make you feel comfortable and you seem to let your defences down quickly, shortly after meeting them?

To most people, you would feel as though you have met your person, the one! And in some cases this may be true, but in other cases you may have met a narcissist.

When starting to date a narcissist, they may move quite quickly, by speaking about the future with you, making all kinds of promises about travelling the world together, or buying your dream home, or even speaking about engagement, marriage, having children together or moving in together quite quickly.  This can begin to happen in the first few dates, or sometimes within the first month.

As women, we can feel as though we have met our Prince Charming, who says the right things, connects with us easily, and sweeps us off our feet. It’s almost as though this person knows how we think, what we need, and is so loving and supportive.

We may see them moving quickly  and have a gut feeling that the relationship is moving too fast, but we  may justify this, as them being our soul mate, our person, the one we would spend our life with. They may buy us flowers, jewellery, and take us out to amazing places. They are everything we have always been searching for.

They may also tell you they had a sad and abusive childhood, which in some cases may be true, but a Narcissist is always a Hero or Villain, never just mediocre. They may not have family, children or many friends in their life. They may tell you that they were rejected from all of these people, and they may tell you their ex’s were crazy, narcissists or evil.

They draw you in with this information, as they have determined you are a kind, gentle soul, who is more than likely very in tune with other people’s emotions. So therefore, you are a perfect target. You may have had a similar experience with your parents or other family members.  And so you understand, how they feel. And this begins the relationship with the Narcissist.